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For many LGBTQ+ individuals, therapy can be an important space to process identity, relationships, and personal struggles. However, not all therapeutic spaces feel safe or affirming. Individuals might easily feel confused or misunderstood by misaligned therapists, where their identities were invalidated, treated as issues to be “fixed”.
As a therapist, creating a genuinely safe and inclusive space goes beyond just being open-minded. It requires intentional actions and a commitment to understanding the unique challenges LGBTQ+ individuals face. After all, no two experiences are exactly the same. If you’re a therapist in Singapore looking to support LGBTQ+ clients effectively, here are five practical strategies to make your practice a truly affirming space.
1. Use Inclusive Language & Pronouns
Words matter. The way you speak to and about your clients can significantly impact how safe and accepted they feel. One of the simplest but most effective ways to affirm LGBTQ+ individuals is to use inclusive language and respect their pronouns. Here are some methods to take note of:
- Ask for pronouns upfront – Don’t assume a person’s gender based on appearance. A simple “What pronouns do you use?” during the introductory session can go a long way.
- Use gender-neutral terms – Instead of “husband” or “wife,” try “partner” until your client specifies their preference.
- Correct yourself when needed – If you slip up, acknowledge it, correct yourself, and move on. It’s important to remember that mistakes do happen – we’re human after all.
- Update forms and paperwork – Ensure that registration forms allow clients to specify their pronouns and gender identity beyond just “Male” or “Female.”
By normalizing these practices, therapists can signal that their space is open to people of all gender identities and sexual orientations.
2. Understand Intersectionality & Unique Challenges
LGBTQ+ individuals don’t exist in isolation. Their experiences are shaped by various factors, including race, class, religion, and disability. This is where the concept of intersectionality comes in.
For example, an LGBTQ+ individual from a conservative religious background might experience more significant internal conflicts compared to someone from a more affirming community. Separately, a transgender person who is also a racial minority may face increased levels of discrimination.
Some possible ways to address these include:
- Asking open-ended questions about how different aspects of a client’s identity impact their mental health.
- Educating yourself on the unique challenges faced by different LGBTQ+ subgroups.
- Avoiding assumptions – Just because one LGBTQ+ client experiences an issue a certain way doesn’t mean it applies to everyone.
Recognizing intersectionality helps therapists provide tailored support instead of offering a one-size-fits-all approach.
3. Navigate Singapore’s Cultural Nuances with Sensitivity
Singapore’s legal and cultural landscape presents unique challenges for LGBTQ+ individuals. While there has been progress, such as the repeal of Section 377A, same-sex marriage is still not recognized, and workplace discrimination remains a reality in society.
What therapists should keep in mind:
- Understand the local legal framework – Clients may struggle with issues related to housing, employment, and family due to lack of legal protections.
- Be mindful of cultural and religious influences – Many LGBTQ+ individuals navigate familial expectations rooted in traditional Asian values.
- Recognize the role of “face” – The concept of “saving face” or avoiding feeling “paiseh” is crucial in Singaporean culture, which may make some clients reluctant to be open about their identity, especially with family.
- Help clients develop coping strategies that take into account the unique challenges they face within a Singaporean context.
A culturally informed approach ensures that therapists can provide relevant and practical support.
4. Create an Affirming Therapy Environment
A therapist’s office, whether it’s a physical or virtual one, should feel like a safe and welcoming space for LGBTQ+ clients. Small but meaningful changes can help reinforce that this is a judgment-free zone.
Here are some ways to make your environment more affirming:
- Display visible signs of support – This could be a small rainbow sticker on your door, a statement on your website, or LGBTQ+ resources in your waiting area.
- Ensure LGBTQ+ representation in therapy materials – If you use case studies, worksheets, or examples, make sure they include LGBTQ+ perspectives.
- Offer flexible communication options – Some LGBTQ+ clients may prefer online sessions if they don’t feel safe discussing their issues at home.
- Have a referral network of LGBTQ+-friendly professionals – If your client needs additional support (such as a doctor or lawyer), knowing where to direct them can be invaluable.
These efforts show clients that your practice is a safe space, not just in words but in action.
5. Commit to Continuous Learning & Advocacy
Being an LGBTQ+-affirming therapist isn’t a one-time thing—it’s an ongoing learning process. The landscape of LGBTQ+ rights, language, and experiences is always evolving. As such, therapists should continually educate themselves with what progression is happening overseas and in society, so as to advocate for updated inclusivity.
Here are some ways to stay informed and engaged:
- Attend LGBTQ+-specific training and workshops – This helps ensure your knowledge remains relevant and up to date.
- Follow LGBTQ+ advocacy groups in Singapore – Groups like Oogachaga and Sayoni provide valuable insights into the community’s needs.
- Engage in self-reflection – Challenge your own biases and seek feedback from LGBTQ+ clients and peers.
- Advocate within your professional network – Encourage other therapists to adopt inclusive practices and challenge discriminatory beliefs in the industry.
By committing to lifelong learning, therapists can continue to improve their practice and better serve LGBTQ+ clients.
Creating a safe space for LGBTQ+ Individuals Is Important
Creating a safe space for LGBTQ+ clients isn’t just about being accepting and receptive to their struggles, it’s about taking intentional steps to foster trust, inclusivity, and cultural sensitivity too. From using inclusive language to understanding intersectionality and navigating Singapore’s unique landscape, therapists play a vital role in ensuring that LGBTQ+ individuals feel truly seen and supported.
While no therapist is perfect, a willingness to learn and adapt makes all the difference. By implementing these five strategies, therapists in Singapore can create affirming spaces where LGBTQ+ individuals can navigate their journeys with confidence and care.
If you or someone you know is exploring their journey with sexual identity or coming out, A Space Between provides a safe environment for support with queer-friendly counsellors. Besides being a resource for help or navigating the challenge of coming out, A Space Between also shares advice on therapy and LGBTQ+ issues through online blog articles, as well as holding community events.