Helping Your Children Discover Themselves With CBT Techniques

Helping Your Children Discover Themselves With CBT Techniques

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a form of talk therapy that equips children with the necessary skills and methods to assess and respond to their emotions or situations. Through CBT, the child may better understand themselves and can navigate effectively through any life challenges they face as they grow up.

For example, a child may say, “Assembling my Lego set is getting boring and taking too long. I do not want to play with that toy anymore!” CBT helps the child to see the situation in another manner. “Assembling the Lego set might be complicated, but I can complete it piece by piece.”

The aim of CBT guides children to focus on what is happening now and what will happen in the future rather than what happened in the past. This method of therapy ensures that children are aware that they cannot control and change what happened in the past, but they can change the present and future by controlling how they respond to situations through their behaviour and thoughts.

What does CBT help with?

CBT helps with a multitude of conditions that your child might be going through:

  • Panic & Anxiety
  • PTSD
  • Bipolar
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Chronic Stress
  • Depression
  • Behavioural Disorder
  • ADHD
  • Lack of Emotional Control

Forms of CBT Techniques

The end goal of CBT is to help children discover and understand themselves better by helping them to learn to replace negativities with positivity. Here are some techniques that have been proven effective in the treatment of the various conditions mentioned above:

1. Exposure Technique

This is one of the best techniques used to treat panic and anxiety in CBT. The aim of this technique is to expose the child to specific trigger points in a safe space. This technique ensures that the children get used to and are mentally aware of the negative experiences, helping them control, regulate, and cope with their emotions.

The basis of exposure therapy starts with the identification of the level of fear. For example, if the child has a fear or anxiety whenever they come across dogs, the therapists might ask the child to indicate their level of fear on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being having no fear to 10 being full-on anxiety and fear. From there, the therapist can better gauge where to start and expose the child to a different variations of dogs, from pictures of a cartoon dog to a physical living dog. The end goal is to help the child gain mastery over current and future situations.

2. Modelling Technique

This CBT technique is based on social learning theory. By emphasis on watching and imitating specific role models, the child learns and understands what type of behaviour is desired and hopefully integrates it into their life. Typically for this technique, a form of motivational reward is necessary to encourage the learning of desired behaviour.

3. Restructuring Technique

This is a form of CBT technique that challenges particular mental distortion and negativity the child may have. While most children generally will brush aside mental distortions and negativity easily, some, especially with panic and anxiety, subconsciously allow themselves to dwell on the issue, leading to an outburst in unwanted behaviour.

In the restructuring technique, the child is taught how to conduct a mental trial in every challenge they face. They are taught how to find specific evidence in the challenge they come across to justify a particular action.

Types of CBT

  • Individual CBT: Involving only the therapist and child, it encourages personalised attention and solution. The child may find it easier to open up as well.
  • Group CBT: Involving a group of children facing the same situation, the child may find support from a group of like-minded friends, which encourages not only improvement in that child but also in the rest of the therapy group.
  • Family CBT: Involving the parents and child, parents learn specific parenting techniques that help them to manage the child’s mental condition.


Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is not limited to just children but also is recommended for adolescents and even adults. However, it is always best to start young and not wait till your child grows up. While there are many therapists in Singapore that offer CBT, it is vital to ensure that the therapist has rich experience working with children. You would not want a therapist who only works with an adult to be working with your child.

Hence, if you are on a search for a child therapist who offers CBT, why not start your search with A Space Between? From group session therapy to private therapy, our private counsellors and therapists have rich experience working with clients of all ages, ensuring that your child is in good hands. For more information on our range of services and therapists available, you may find out more at

Where private practice meets
A Space Between provides flexible co-working office spaces for rent to therapists and other professionals in Singapore.
A Space Between is a destination for mental health therapy activities. Counsellors utilise our many conducive therapy rooms for consultations. Located conveniently downtown and offering your independent therapists rent by the hour, we house many professional mental health practitioners, including LGBTQ+ friendly ones. To find out more about the therapists practising in A Space Between, write to us at [email protected].
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