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As we’re in the middle of the 2020’s decade, things are evolving faster than ever. And one thing that gets increasingly tricky to understand? Sexual orientations. They can feel like a maze of terms and definitions, but at its core, it’s about who we’re romantically, emotionally, or physically attracted to. In recent years, terms like “pansexual” and “demisexual” have gained recognition, helping people express themselves more accurately. If you’re new to LGBTQ+ culture or ever wondered what all these terms mean—or what other sexual orientations are out there—this guide has got you covered.
From understanding the basics to exploring nuances, we’ll break down different sexual orientations, to leave you with a better understanding of the beautiful spectrum of human attraction.
1. Heterosexual
Let’s start with the one most people know: heterosexuality, often referred to as being “straight.” This means being romantically or sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender, like men being attracted to women and vice versa. Essentially, it’s the basis of the most conventional orientation and is seen widely in the media, and our families.
Most rom-coms are built around heterosexual relationships. Think everything from Disney movies to Crazy Rich Asians. Heterosexuality has long been the default in media representation, but that doesn’t mean other orientations are any less valid.
2. Homosexual
Homosexuality refers to being attracted to someone of the same gender. This term is often broken down into more specific identities like gay, which typically means men attracted to men, and lesbian – women attracted to women.
Common examples include Ellen DeGeneres, a trailblazer for LGBTQ+ visibility, who publicly came out as a lesbian in the late ’90s to extreme reactions. More modern examples of popular gay and lesbian celebrities include Troye Sivan, Matt Bomer and Sarah Paulson.
3. Pansexual
Pansexuality is often described as being attracted to people regardless of their gender. It’s about connecting with someone based on who they are, not what gender they identify as. This means that an emotional connection is usually established first, before a physical attraction is developed.
Miley Cyrus identifies as pansexual, and perhaps explains it clearly, sharing that her attraction to people isn’t confined by gender, but instead based on their spirit and energy, not their gender identity.
Shows like Schitt’s Creek have also introduced pansexual characters like David Rose, who famously says, “I like the wine, not the label,” to describe his attraction.
4. Bisexual
Bisexuality is the attraction to more than one gender. Contrary to stereotypes, this doesn’t mean being “confused” or “halfway” between straight and gay. Yes, bisexuality exists, and it is its own valid orientation. Most commonly, this means an individual identifies as being attracted to both males and females.
Lady Gaga is one of the most iconic bisexuals in pop culture, who has openly celebrated her identity and often advocates for LGBTQ+ rights through her music and activism. Representation of bisexuals has also increased in recent times through TV shows like Sex Education and Heartstopper, which feature bisexual characters who navigate their identities with honesty and complexity.
5. Asexual
Asexuality refers to experiencing little to no sexual attraction toward others. However, it’s important to understand that asexuality exists on a spectrum – some asexual individuals may feel romantic attraction or occasional sexual attraction under specific circumstances. For example, may experience physical arousal as a natural bodily response but not feel sexual attraction toward others. Arousal is a biological reaction, whereas attraction involves emotional or relational factors.
Todd Chavez, a character from BoJack Horseman, is one of the first prominent examples of an asexual character in mainstream media. His storyline helps break down stereotypes and misconceptions about asexuality.
Asexuality often goes under the radar and isn’t commonly discussed, especially in Singapore, where topics around sexual attraction can already be taboo. However, local online forums and LGBTQ+ groups have started to create more awareness about asexuality, providing support and community for those who identify as such.
6. Demisexual
Demisexuality sits under the asexual spectrum. Demisexual individuals only feel romantic or sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional connection. It’s less about love at first sight and more about meaningful bonds.
For those who value emotional bonds over physical attraction, Singapore’s dating scene might feel like a challenge in a traditional society that often prioritises practicality in relationships. Apps like Bumble, which emphasize deeper connections, could be a game-changer, and help people that prioritises this.
7. Queer
Is “queer” the same as being LGBTQ+? Well, queer is an umbrella term that encompasses a variety of sexual orientations, gender identities, and expressions outside of societal norms. While it was once used as a slur, the LGBTQ+ community has reclaimed it as a symbol of pride and inclusivity. People who identify as queer may choose this label because it feels more fluid and doesn’t confine them to a specific category.
Perhaps shows like Queer Eye and Pose are great examples with cast and characters that fall under this identification. Jonathan Van Ness, one of the hosts of Queer Eye, identifies as non-binary and queer. Their openness about their identity has helped normalize the term and inspires others to embrace it. Meanwhile, Pose highlights the queer and transgender ballroom culture of the 1980s and 1990s, and is a moving example of queer representation.
Understanding Sexual Orientations Is Important
Understanding sexual orientations isn’t just about labels, it’s about understanding a world where everyone feels seen, respected, and accepted with empathy and inclusion. The last thing you’d want is a misunderstanding, which can lead to hurtful stereotypes and assumptions.
Whether you’re pansexual, demisexual, heterosexual, or somewhere in between, remember that every orientation is valid. Pop culture and celebrity visibility are slowly but surely making these identities more mainstream, but there’s still a long way to go — especially in culturally conservative places like Singapore.
The next time you hear someone question these identities, feel free to share your newfound knowledge. After all, the more we understand, the more compassionate we can become.At the end of the day, love is love, and people are people. Let’s celebrate the spectrum of human attraction and the connections that make life so wonderfully diverse.
If you or someone you know is exploring their journey with sexual identity or coming out, A Space Between provides a safe environment for support with queer-friendly counsellors. Besides being a resource for help or navigating the challenge of coming out, A Space Between also shares advice on therapy and LGBTQ+ issues through online blog articles, as well as holding community events.
