What Happens To LGBTQ+ Elderly In Singapore? The Case For More Queer Inclusivity In Society

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A recent documentary series I watched on Channel NewsAsia revealed an alarming fact. More elderly in Singapore were dying alone in their homes, their bodies only discovered later. Statistically, it also cited that the percentage of elderly living alone rose from 17.6% in 2012 to 23.1% in 2022. 

Common reasons for their isolation were attributed to being single, widowed or divorced, or wanting to be independent from their families. That begged me to question – what about the LGBTQ+ elderly in Singapore? 

Sure, in recent years, discussions around LGBTQ+ rights have gained momentum worldwide, focusing largely on issues like marriage equality, workplace discrimination, and youth support. However, as much as there is discourse around representation among Gen Z and Millennials, there’s as much silence about the elderly LGBTQ+ community in Singapore. As Singapore’s population ages, understanding and addressing the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ seniors should become increasingly vital. 

Elderly LGBTQ+ Community In Singapore

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Sure, Section 377A, which criminalises sex between men, was repealed in January 2023. It was a historic win for Singaporeans. But truth be told, this only majorly impacts the younger generation for the future. It’s easy to neglect the fact that many older LGBTQ+ folks have spent much of their lives under these restrictive laws, leading to internalised stigma and fear of discrimination. What does that mean? They can’t parade rainbow-adorned apparel or be their fabulous selves comfortably even if society is more open today. 

Additionally, Singapore’s unique history with queer acceptance has resulted in a limbo of sorts for the elderly. Some issues and challenges they face include:

  1. Isolation and Loneliness: Many LGBTQ+ seniors have lived through eras when their identities were less accepted, often leading to estrangement from family and friends. As a result, they may face significant isolation in their later years, lacking traditional support systems of a family structure that many heterosexual seniors rely on.
  2. Healthcare Access: Older LGBTQ+ individuals may experience anxiety about accessing healthcare services, fearing discrimination or lack of understanding from providers. This may lead to procrastination in seeking necessary medical attention and a lower overall quality of health.
  3. Financial Insecurity: Without the ability to marry or form recognised partnerships for much of their lives, many LGBTQ+ seniors have not benefited from the economic advantages that often accompany these relationships. For example, LGBTQ individuals’ HDB rights are limited to a 2-room flexi BTO, with minimal grants provided. Additionally, discriminatory workplace practices in the past may have limited their career advancement and retirement savings.
  4. Lack of Safe Housing: Housing is a significant issue for the elderly in general, but LGBTQ+ seniors face additional challenges in finding safe, affirming environments. Many fear discrimination or abuse in nursing homes, just because of their sexual identity.

Why is it important to be inclusive of queer elderly?

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As we strive towards an even more inclusive society, it’s important to understand why there’s a need to. According to a government report in 2023, Singapore’s ageing population of those aged 65 and above constitute nearly a fifth of the entire population, a startling 11.7% increase from a decade before. Therein inevitably lies those that fall through the cracks – the queer elderly.

Fostering a safe community for them is important for many reasons. Examples include:

Psychological and Social Benefits

Inclusion and acceptance are fundamental to the psychological well-being of any individual, and this is particularly true for LGBTQ+ seniors. Studies have shown that social support and community connection significantly improve mental health outcomes for older adults. For LGBTQ+ elders, being part of an inclusive community can mitigate the effects of a lifetime of discrimination and marginalisation. In fact, they can finally spend their old age feeling accepted and a sense of belonging.

Economic Implications

Ensuring that LGBTQ+ seniors can age well could even impact our economy. By creating policies that support their financial stability—such as anti-discrimination measures in employment and improved access to housing and healthcare—society can reduce the economic strain on social services and healthcare systems. Inclusive practices encourage older LGBTQ+ individuals to remain engaged and productive members of society, contributing to the economy through work, volunteerism, and mentorship.

A Stronger Community

A society that embraces its LGBTQ+ elders fosters stronger community ties across all generations. When older adults feel respected and valued, they are more likely to engage with and contribute to their communities. Younger LGBTQ+ individuals benefit from the wisdom and experiences of their elders, creating a cycle of mentorship and support that strengthens the entire community. Think about it – how many LGBTQ+ seniors do we know that are actively and publicly sharing their knowledge and wisdom to the younger generation? Not many TBH.

What could be done to improve queer inclusivity in Singapore?

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Of course, an idealistic future for all is easier said than done. It will be a long way more before society truly embraces the LGBTQ+ without stigma and preconceived stereotypes. But to quote the Stefanie Sun NDP song, “We Will Get There” – slowly but surely. To start off, here’s what could potentially be done in the future.

Policy Reforms

Anti-discrimination laws might be the stuff of Western culture as of now, but once that eventually trickles over to Asia and LGBTQ+ individuals in Singapore protected in areas such as employment, housing, and healthcare, it would provide a foundation for equal treatment and access to resources.

Similarly, developing training programs for healthcare professionals to ensure they understand the unique needs of LGBTQ+ elders can improve life experiences. Guidelines that promote respect and dignity in patient interactions are essential so that future LGBTQ+ individuals feel safe in seeking medical help. 

Creating or supporting housing initiatives that cater specifically to LGBTQ+ seniors can also provide safe and affirming environments. Government and private partnerships could develop eldercare facilities that are inclusive and welcoming.

Community Initiatives

On the community front, establishing support groups and community centres for LGBTQ+ elders can combat loneliness and isolation. These spaces offer opportunities for socialisation, peer support, and community engagement. Through these communities, expansion could take form in intergenerational programmes that facilitate connections, which can help younger generations learn from their elders while providing companionship and support to older adults.

Raising awareness about the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ seniors through advocacy campaigns can additionally help shift public perceptions and promote inclusivity. Highlighting the stories and contributions of LGBTQ+ elders can inspire empathy and action among the younger population.

Hoping for a more inclusive society for LGBTQ+ seniors

While it’s great that modern society and mainstream media are gradually becoming acceptable to the LGBTQ+ community, it’s important to not forget the elderly members as well. By highlighting their struggles, fears and stigmas, we can work towards building a more inclusive future for all. 

If you know of a LGBTQ+ elderly who needs help or support with their well-being, A Space Between provides a safe environment for support with queer-friendly counsellors. Alternatively, if you’re seeking out private areas to facilitate sensitive meetings or even to conduct therapy sessions, A Space Between also has private rooms to accommodate these.

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